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5 ways to gain confidence

Sometimes, life just sucks. Our days are going bad, we aren't feeling the best. Well here are 5 ways to gain confidence for those hard days.

A few days ago I watched a TedX talk by Cece Olisa. She talked about her life through school, of wanting to be on Broadway, acting and sharing her life with the world and how she was told no because of her body. How she had all the confidence in the world as a child and that confidence was shattered by one teacher she looked up to. She also listed 4 ways to gain confidence. You can watch the video down below at the end of this post to hear her story.

Right now, I want to share my story of confidence. My confidence is…shaky. Most days are bright and planned out. Some days are adventurous and enlightening. Rare days are dark and gloomy; unsure, unknown, unaware.

I wish I could eliminate those rare days but they are a part of life. It’s something I can’t get rid of no matter how hard I try so how do I deal with them?

I try my best to find the reason I’m having a bad day or I let them come as they are. I accept them and wait until my mood picks up so that I can move on.

Sometimes, life just sucks. Our days are going bad, we aren't feeling the best. Well here are 5 ways to gain confidence for those hard days.

Accepting a bad day for what it is isn’t easy for a lot of people and I still struggle with it from time to time. However, allowing bad days to just happen…sometimes it works out for the best.

Life sometimes just sucks

Just the other day I woke up and said literally 30 different affirmations of positivity, self love and influence.

Before I could even get my work day started, everything was against me. I was telling myself that I would still have a great day; that I would get my work done, exercise, all that Jazz. But life decided different. I barely got any work done, didn’t exercise, didn’t eat right, my mood kept going down and down. I felt the little black hole of depression creeping up on me. To make matters worse, I began to miss my grandmother severely, wishing she was still here with me.

Halfway through the day I just accepted that this isn’t a good day for me but I wasn’t going to keep trying to fight against the forces of nature. I let it happen. Yes, I got frustrated, I cried a little. I complained and fussed. But the next day I woke up with a smile, thought of what I am grateful for, said a prayer, and took the day by its horns and accomplished what I set my mind to.

Let the bad days happen as they may

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So yeah, life sometimes decides you can’t have a great or even an okay day. Sometimes it just needs a bad day.

Now, I want to share with you 5 ways to gain confidence so when you’re not having such a good day, you have these little things to help you along the way.

5 ways to gain confidence


I mentioned in this post that I love having a strong relationship with God. He is my reason for living. My relationship is sometimes as rocky as my confidence is but whenever I do go to Him, I’m always feeling better. I also love to journal. Writing down my thoughts and feelings for the day, no matter how big or small, helps me with my confidence. I can go back to a journal where life seemed impossible, where I thought I couldn’t continue something and realize “I’m here now. I kept going and I’m fine”. Those moments really help me out.


It’s such a simple gesture but how often are we smiling? Smile at a stranger, smile at a child. Smile at your pet. Try smiling to yourself. Hell, smile at nothing. It may feel ridiculous if you just tried to smile for no reason but trust me, when it’s necessary, it’s necessary. There’s a really silly meme that’s been around for a while that makes me smile every single time, you can check it out here. Let me know if you just smiled.

Do something you enjoy and something you’re good at.

This can be simple or investing. If you don’t know what you’re good at, think about what you enjoy doing. I promise you’re good at whatever you enjoy. Do you like to cook? Make yourself a meal and savor how well it tastes. Is reading a good fantasy novel your thing? I bet you can read the whole book in a day! That’s great reading!

Eat something sweet(in moderation, of course).

I love to have Reese’s Cups or chocolate donuts around. I keep them in the fridge and eat one whenever I’m feeling frustrated. I’m not a huge fan of chocolate so I know I won’t eat the whole container or too many Reese’s cups. The sweet taste and guilty pleasure of eating something with chocolate boosts my happiness which boosts my confidence.

Mind your tongue.

I cannot stress how much power the mind and tongue has over our lives. What we speak, we believe. What we believe, becomes reality. Speak and think positivity over yourself. Speak it over your life, your family, your friends, finances, school, work, an outfit, over your confidence. Let confidence become a natural part of your life.

Those are my 5 tips for gaining confidence.

Doing them can be scary or weird if you aren’t used to them but with practice and time, you’ll be doing it subconsciously and your confidence will be at levels you couldn’t imagine!

Watch Cece Olisa’s TedX talk below.

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  1. Great post! I love all your tips. Definitely going to take them on board xoxo

    1. Thank you!!

  2. Thanks for these helpful tips. Love that eating sweets helps with confidence.

    1. It’s a different method for sure but one of my favorite ways!

  3. One of the hardest, but most important, things for me is to try to talk nicer to myself. I am way harsher on myself than I ever would be to anyone else!

    1. Yep! That’s how I am! You’ll get there!!!! Keep working hard at it and speak positive about yourself as often as possible!

  4. Love this, Brianna! Such great inspiration and motivation for gaining confidence. Best!

    1. Thanks so much, Stacy!

  5. I LOVE that you put smiling on the list. Even if you’re sad or don’t feel like it, smiling can actually cause your brain to release the chemicals associated with joy.
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    1. Exactly!!! I’m so glad you agree!

  6. Do something you are good at and have a passion for always helps to boost our confidence too x

    1. Yay!!!! So glad to hear that

  7. Minding your tongue is a great way to build confidence. There is nothing worse than saying something you regret later

    1. Agreed! But it’s also important to speak the right things into your life ~

  8. This is such a amazing post and very encouraging too. Such a timely post at a time of crisis or when we’re down to pick our self up and never give up whatever happens in life.

    1. Thank you so much!

  9. Having someone whom you know will always accept and forgive you for who you are will really give you the overall confidence you need in life. And that’s only God above.

    1. Yes!!!!!! I love this comment! It’s very true

  10. Thank you for sharing this inspiring post! I think smiling is a big help to me 🙂 It makes me feel better, and therefore, more confident!

  11. Some brilliant tips to follow – thank you

  12. all things in moderation will help to keep life in order

  13. Love all these tips for gaining confidence! Definitely tips to live by!

    1. Thank you!

  14. Thanks for all the great advice! I can always use a boost! 🙂

    1. Thank you for reading!

  15. Some great tips that I will certainly be putting into action. I sometimes find myself really not confident in situations so this is something I need to work on.

    1. Definitely! We all have those moments where we aren’t too sure so I’m glad this list can help you even if just a little!

  16. This is seriously such a great post! We are our own harshest critics but we need to learn to be our own cheerleader 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    1. Exactly! Thank you for reading!

  17. There’s a French saying and it goes something like this, “Move your tongue seven times inside your mouth before you speak”. I would say this builds more positive communication and then confidence. 🙂

  18. Ooo! Permission to eat sweets! Yay! Lol, I’d rather spend time with my journal!

  19. Great tips and such an inspiring post. I always tell my kids smile even when you don’t mean it, just smile until you do. It’s the power of positive thinking and it’s so important!

    1. I love this!!! You’re already on a great start for your kids! They will thank you for it!

  20. the point Mind your tongue.is so true! Thinking positive helps a lot indeed

  21. I think the self-confidence is a necessity in order to live a happy life. Which is why I would agree with you that journaling and praying are great at helping to build self-confidence although I don’t journal I do pray in my confidence is beginning to rise.

  22. Confidence is so important. These are such great tips on how to be more confident.
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