I have to laugh at the title. It’s always amazed me when I hear that from people. Can’t really say I’ve heard it from friends too because I’ve always been the fat girl. Every time I turn a guy down, he comes back at me with something along the lines of “you’re too fat” ” you need to lose some weight” ” you’re ugly anyways” but I love how my weight never mattered as you approached me very much sarcasm here by the way.
Why do some men feel like that’s the correct way to ‘get back’ at a fat girl when she turns him down? I mean, do they think we think we are not fat? Do they feel like we will cry and beg for them to accept us just because we are fat? I wish a man would think that about me. I have come a damn long ways of finding my self confidence in my body and looks and I refuse to give it up just because your feelings are hurt.
I am not obligated to bow down to you just because I am a fat girl. I am not obligated to feel like you are my only option. I am not obligated to lower my standards because I am a fat girl. I will never again feel bad for being fat. Yes there are some places I want to work on, which I am. But will you telling me that I am fat get me down? Maybe in my teen years when I was lost and had no esteem. But not now, buddy. As my mother always said, ” I can lose my weight but you can’t lose your ugly.”
It’s just so amusing to me that men think fat girls are obligated to accept any man that finds interest in us. We are not obligated to anybody but ourselves. We are obligated to love ourselves. We are obligated to care for ourselves, take ourselves out to dinner, show ourselves a good time, and again, love ourselves. If we can’t do that, we damn sure shouldn’t expect it from some man who will probably end up abusing us in some way, shape, or form if he has the mentality that we are obligated to respect him just because we are fat.
To my fat girls, if you feel offended for me using the term ‘fat’ please don’t be. I don’t mean it in a bad way in any way, shape, or form. I have come to terms with my weight and I know I’m fat. I’m not going to deny it. Yes it can be a harsh word when used wrong but when used correctly, it’s cute. Fat is cute. What matters is your attitude, personality, and heart. Not our weight. We all have someone out there that will love us and our fat. And he or she will be blessed with our love and loyalty when the time is right.
Blessed to be fat,